I’ll be leading a workshop on examining power dynamics this February at Come As You Are here in Toronto. It’s taken me a while to get to a point where I feel like I might have useful things to say, and share. These conversations are important and I wonder how often they actually happen. More information is through the link.
I have a feeling I may have posted this in the past. Regardless. Worth a second round of appreciation.
“I like to be hit by all sorts of things—but something about being hit with someone’s hand, something about the mutual understanding of it, the mutual harm, makes it the most powerful. There is an agreed upon level of intimacy in it, that the person doing the hitting understands what they are harming, is willing to feel the pain inflicted in a open palm, and refuses to be divorced from it. I imagine it’s also more difficult to execute, and requires more skill to deliver—mentally, emotionally, and physically. Feeling someone suffering directly requires a courage not found in a paddle or strap. And requires more gratitude on the recipient’s part.”
Shared with permission. I’m very fortunate.